Papa kehtey hein bada naam karega,
Beta hamara aisa kaam karega,
Magar yeh to koyi na jaane,
Ki meri manzil hei kahaan....
I bet apart from foreigners and some of my only Tamil friends everybody else knows this song. Anyhow, the point is not about knowing the song, its implication on my life. Grown up hearing this song and never tried to understand what it really means.
As said in that song every father dreams about his son to reach greater height and make him proud, and most fathers wants their son to take over him, and in due process they stood in front as a first example/ideal for us to take off. I guess most of the girls realize it fast, that's why they dream about their 2nd men in the life to be like their dad.
Okay, Does this song go in tune with my life ? I would say both 'Yes' and 'No'. 'YES' because my father dreamt about my success, and 'NO' because he never showed himself as an example instead he put forward himself as a imperfect example for us. That doesn't mean he is bad or irresponsible person he is just not formally educated. He struggled hard to earn the respect and faith throughout his life and still doing.
He is calm and composed, he never told us(me and my sister) to study hard, he never urged us to become an engineer or a doctor, he never advised us to do something of his wish. He monitored our progress from a distance and rarely talked about it. He only wanted us not to repeat the mistake he did in his early life, so that we shouldn't struggle later for our existence. He practically showed us how tough to follow his path.
During the same time, I saw my schoolmates who were literally beaten by their fathers for not studying, but my dad never treated us that way, Instead he told, "If you don't study well today, tomorrow you will end up doing hard work like me". Nothing more!! strangely it worked, because we noticed & experienced that pain too. Though we are studying we have to work a little time with him, its not required though but his intent is to show us that its not so easy to earn a penny. That's why I said he is formally uneducated because, he graduated from his own experiences that "I could have earned a lot many things in life, if I was educated". He just asked us the favour to study as much as we could and he is ready to do any hard work to pay for it.
Behind everything there should be a reason, and the reason behind him being not educated was fate. He was not as lucky as I am. When he was at his tender age of 7-8yrs, his dad passed away in a major accident. Aftermath whatever happened was a bizarre which he never admired but always remembered to keep us in a right path.
What he did for us then? he showed us how hard it is to earn a rupee, probably how easy to learn than to earn. Riding a cycle for 10miles with 70kgs load would fetch him hardly 15-20 Rs (0.4$), and the load is not of rice or ice. They are Soda bottles, dangerous and explosive, these are made of the same material which were used in some powerful explosions. He met with 2 major surgeries and countless minor accidents, being his better half my Mom also shared such injuries equally. Even I got a nasty blow on my face.
Does that make them quit that work and taking that extra risk? No, I know there is no pleasure or passion in doing that work, but they didn't find an alternative to choose either, because any alternative step would cost them money which they wanted for our studies. My Mom equally supported, helped and struggled without any regrets. We helped him at times which were like paid assignments, just made us think "Ohh God!! Its hard to earn money".
They didn't do this for them, its for us, for our studies and for our future. But that's not sufficient when we reached our graduation, so they happened to squeeze their sleep and prolonged the work, they started Milk booth and then a small coffee shop. Some people even advised him to let me go for some job, instead he was reluctant and suggested me to go for my Masters if I am interested. Though its sweet or bitter, Its always good to remember the past which would lead to a better future.
I still remember the day/days
he used to take me on his cycle to drop me at school, ofcourse that 70kgs+me..
he fought with my principle for beating me without any reason and changed the school next day.
he used to give me 10Rs per day for waving hand while he leave for his work in the morning. (Of course that money was used for my schooling)
he used to pay the debts to clear our education loans,
If I keep saying it would made a long list of deeds which he did for me and my sister. All I could do is just take care of them and couldn't let them struggle anymore. What ever I do for them is not worth the blood and sweat they shed for me. I may not be such an example for my kids(i mean in future) but I can certainly tell them how tough their grand parents were and what they could learn from them. All dad's are superman's for their kids, my dad is no exception and today 23rd of Jan is his Birthday and I wish him to make many more Happy Birthdays in a relaxed mood tuning to his songs.
I hope he is proud of me, but I didn't reach my MANZIL, so signing off humming "koyi na jaane, ki meri manzil hei kahaan..."
Beta hamara aisa kaam karega,
Magar yeh to koyi na jaane,
Ki meri manzil hei kahaan....
I bet apart from foreigners and some of my only Tamil friends everybody else knows this song. Anyhow, the point is not about knowing the song, its implication on my life. Grown up hearing this song and never tried to understand what it really means.
As said in that song every father dreams about his son to reach greater height and make him proud, and most fathers wants their son to take over him, and in due process they stood in front as a first example/ideal for us to take off. I guess most of the girls realize it fast, that's why they dream about their 2nd men in the life to be like their dad.
Okay, Does this song go in tune with my life ? I would say both 'Yes' and 'No'. 'YES' because my father dreamt about my success, and 'NO' because he never showed himself as an example instead he put forward himself as a imperfect example for us. That doesn't mean he is bad or irresponsible person he is just not formally educated. He struggled hard to earn the respect and faith throughout his life and still doing.
He is calm and composed, he never told us(me and my sister) to study hard, he never urged us to become an engineer or a doctor, he never advised us to do something of his wish. He monitored our progress from a distance and rarely talked about it. He only wanted us not to repeat the mistake he did in his early life, so that we shouldn't struggle later for our existence. He practically showed us how tough to follow his path.
During the same time, I saw my schoolmates who were literally beaten by their fathers for not studying, but my dad never treated us that way, Instead he told, "If you don't study well today, tomorrow you will end up doing hard work like me". Nothing more!! strangely it worked, because we noticed & experienced that pain too. Though we are studying we have to work a little time with him, its not required though but his intent is to show us that its not so easy to earn a penny. That's why I said he is formally uneducated because, he graduated from his own experiences that "I could have earned a lot many things in life, if I was educated". He just asked us the favour to study as much as we could and he is ready to do any hard work to pay for it.
Behind everything there should be a reason, and the reason behind him being not educated was fate. He was not as lucky as I am. When he was at his tender age of 7-8yrs, his dad passed away in a major accident. Aftermath whatever happened was a bizarre which he never admired but always remembered to keep us in a right path.
What he did for us then? he showed us how hard it is to earn a rupee, probably how easy to learn than to earn. Riding a cycle for 10miles with 70kgs load would fetch him hardly 15-20 Rs (0.4$), and the load is not of rice or ice. They are Soda bottles, dangerous and explosive, these are made of the same material which were used in some powerful explosions. He met with 2 major surgeries and countless minor accidents, being his better half my Mom also shared such injuries equally. Even I got a nasty blow on my face.
Does that make them quit that work and taking that extra risk? No, I know there is no pleasure or passion in doing that work, but they didn't find an alternative to choose either, because any alternative step would cost them money which they wanted for our studies. My Mom equally supported, helped and struggled without any regrets. We helped him at times which were like paid assignments, just made us think "Ohh God!! Its hard to earn money".
They didn't do this for them, its for us, for our studies and for our future. But that's not sufficient when we reached our graduation, so they happened to squeeze their sleep and prolonged the work, they started Milk booth and then a small coffee shop. Some people even advised him to let me go for some job, instead he was reluctant and suggested me to go for my Masters if I am interested. Though its sweet or bitter, Its always good to remember the past which would lead to a better future.
I still remember the day/days
he used to take me on his cycle to drop me at school, ofcourse that 70kgs+me..
he fought with my principle for beating me without any reason and changed the school next day.
he used to give me 10Rs per day for waving hand while he leave for his work in the morning. (Of course that money was used for my schooling)
he used to pay the debts to clear our education loans,
If I keep saying it would made a long list of deeds which he did for me and my sister. All I could do is just take care of them and couldn't let them struggle anymore. What ever I do for them is not worth the blood and sweat they shed for me. I may not be such an example for my kids(i mean in future) but I can certainly tell them how tough their grand parents were and what they could learn from them. All dad's are superman's for their kids, my dad is no exception and today 23rd of Jan is his Birthday and I wish him to make many more Happy Birthdays in a relaxed mood tuning to his songs.
I hope he is proud of me, but I didn't reach my MANZIL, so signing off humming "koyi na jaane, ki meri manzil hei kahaan..."
